What's the one thing that can keep you safe and secure?
Nov 01, 2020 · 12 mins read
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Intuition is usually right
Gavin de Becker provides security for many famous figures. When Amazon founder and world’s richest man Jeff Bezos had his phone hacked (probably by the Saudis), de Becker led the investigation. Stars trust him to keep their lives free of press intrusion and violence.
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Before he was 13, de Becker had seen more violence within his own home that most adults see in a lifetime. In order to survive, he had to become good at predicting what would happen next in frightening situations.
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He made it his life's work to formularize the violent mindset so that others could also become good at predicting its behavior. He became an expert in violent risk and assessment, but also something of a spokesperson on domestic violence.
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We normally think of fear as something bad, but in The Gift of Fear, de Becker shows how it’s a gift that may protect us from grievous harm. If we can get into the mind of the other person, their actions won’t come as a terrible surprise.
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We think that the police and criminal justice system will protect us, but often by the time we engage the authorities, it’s usually too late. We believe that better technology will protect us from danger; the more alarms and high fences we have, the safer we feel.
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The best, most reliable source of protection is your intuition or gut feeling. Like other animals, we have an in-built warning system that can tell us if we are in the presence of danger – if we listen to it.
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Female victims of violence have said to de Becker: “Even though I knew what was happening leading up to the event was not quite right, I did not extract myself from it”.
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Modern life deadens our sensitivity. We either don't see the signals at all, or won't admit them.
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A woman was trapped and raped in her own apartment. When her attacker said he was going into the kitchen, something told her to follow him on tiptoes. When she did, she saw him rifling through the drawers looking for a large knife (to kill her).
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She made a break for the front door, and escaped. The remarkable thing was, she didn’t remember being afraid. Real fear, because it involves our intuition, is a positive feeling designed to save us.
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