Nietzsche on what lovers and young people get wrong

I recently read an old but brilliant book: Beyond Good And Evil (1886) by German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche. In this memo, find out the problem with thinking in absolutes, Nietzsche's writing tips, why men and women fight, and more.👇👇👇

Thinking in B/W. The young think in absolutes - and pay a terrible price. The young "respect and despise without the art of nuance." We worship what only deserves mild affection; reject completely what can teach us things. Nietzsche: "Introduce a little art into your feelings."

Self-sabotage. We self-sabotage when we don't have external foes to wage war against. Nietzsche: "Under conditions of peace the warlike man attacks himself."

Against complete understanding. You don't want complete understanding. Nietzsche: "A thing explained is a thing we have no further concern with." We engage deeply with mysteries, not so much with answered questions. Let the world, your lover, even yourself - be a bit of a puzzle.

Writing tip. Fantastic writing advice for all content creators, writers, and contemporary idea merchants: "The more abstract the truth you want to teach the more you must seduce the senses to it."

Can’t see eye to eye. The sexes miscommunicate because they dance to different rhythms. Nietzsche: "The same emotions in men and women are different in tempo: therefore men and women never cease to misunderstand one another." But - well-arranged differences in tempo make a song.

Make decisions, and don't waver. Nietzsche: "Close your ears to even the best counter-argument once the decision has been taken." You need this "occasional will to stupidity" if you are to ever finish the things you start.

On good conversation. We are pregnant with thoughts that others help us birth. Nietzsche: "One seeks a midwife for his thoughts, another someone to whom he can be a midwife: thus originates a good conversation."

On democracy. Democracy makes people spiritually confused, and this creates the demand for "tyrants" who will settle questions - one way or the other. Nietzsche: "The democratization of Europe is at the same time an involuntary arrangement for the breeding of tyrants."

Bottom line: Love and hate with nuance. Embrace real problems to ensure you don’t create fake ones. Appeal to people’s senses to properly penetrate their intellect. And never underestimate the power of a great conversation - share this memo with a friend and it may spark one.