9 Wise Quotes from Cheryl Strayed's Tiny Beautiful Things

Bestselling author Cheryl Strayed ran an online advice column Dear Sugar. Her signature radical empathy and deeply personal advice went viral and led to a podcast and Hulu series. The best advice was compiled in the bookTiny Beautiful Things. Here are 9 of its insightful quotes:

“Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can't cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It's just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on."

"What's important is that you make the leap. Jump high and hard with intention and heart... It's up to you to make your life. Take what you have and stack it up like a tower of teetering blocks. Build your dream around that."

"They are not the people who will be helpful to you when it comes to healing the pain of your daughter's death. They live on Planet Earth. You live on Planet My Baby Died. It seems to me that you feel like you're all alone there. You aren't... Find your tribe."

“You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else.”

"Most of the people who didn't give up realized that in order to thrive they had to dismantle the ugly jealous god in their heads so they could instead serve something greater: their own work."

"I could allow myself to be influenced by three men who screwed me against my will or I could allow myself to be influenced by van Gogh. I chose van Gogh... I think of that phrase 'I chose can Gogh' whenever I'm having trouble lifting my own head up."

"They love X but want to f**** Z. It is the plight of almost every monogamous person at one time or another. We all love X but want to f*** Z... Z is so gleaming, so crystalline, so unlikely to b**** at you... Z is like a motorcycle with no one on it. Beautiful. Going nowhere."

"Forgiveness doesn't just sit there like a pretty boy in a bar. Forgiveness is the old fat guy you have to haul up the hill. You have to say I am forgiven again and again until it becomes the story you believe about yourself."

"Finding a way in my grief to become the woman who my mother raised me to be is the most important way I have honored my mother. It has been the greatest salve to my sorrow. The strange and painful truth is that I'm a better person because I lost my mom young."