What's so scary about deconstructing your faith?

It Feels Abnormal - Deconstructing your faith is a normal growth process that lots of people go through. Asking questions and seeking after truth is a normal and healthy behavior.

I Might Lose Friends - You might. After reading hundreds of stories about deconstruction, it's often true that the people you thought you knew didn't really seem to care after they started questioning their faith. What kind of friendship is that?

I Might Lose My Community - Yes. It's possible. But there are many great groups of people that will come around you and provide a new community. You are not alone on this journey.

I Might Disappoint Someone - Probably. But, where do those expectations come from? What do those people really want? Do they want you to grow and find happiness? Are they willing to love you no matter what?

I Really Thought I Was Loving Others Well - Me too. Often we don't know what we don't know. We didn't know that some of the behaviors in our religious traditions were toxic and could hurt people. Now we know. Now we can change.

Is There Hope? - Absolutely. Growth is a good thing, even though it's hard. You will come to a place where the ground feels solid again and the world looks clearer. It takes time and it's a hard journey but you will make it.