The 5 Love Languages with Julie Nguyen

Relationship coach Julie Nguyen appeared on the Book Insights podcast to discuss "The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. Here are some of her key insights:

"There's an implicit desire for our partner to read our minds, and naturally meet our needs... When they don't, we believe it's a fundamental mismatch, whereas it may just be a communication problem."

"This book very practically describes 5 different ways we can interpret and receive love. This is huge for people who are dating!"

"There's 5 love languages, how can I apply all of them in different situations? As opposed to just acts of service for example, just domestic chores at the cost of gifts or words. That's not what it is."

"It is important to distill it down to 1-2 love languages that are super important to you...You can't always be keyed into what your partner needs on a day to day basis... So it's good to prioritize your love languages and communicate them to your partner."

"The misunderstood love language is gift giving. A lot of peope relate it to materialism or the monetary value behind the gift. But people who have this love language are more into the thoughtful act behind the gift."

"If there's not that sense of connection - like I truly want to make sure that you're feel loved - the act will fall flat."

"This book really validates emotional expression, and that's a very valid thing to expect and want in relationships."

"Back then this book was very revolutionary, and in some aspects it still is. But we have a long way to go in terms of how we maintain and nurture the incredible romantic relationships in our lives."

"You may not receive love the same way your partner does. So it's good to have a sense of curiosity around this."