How can I fall back in love with my partner?
Nov 07, 2020 · 2 mins read
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It’s perfectly normal for the everyday routine of a long-term relationship to lose the spark it once had, leaving one or both sides feeling disconnected. But remember that love and intimacy fluctuate. Expecting consistency is unrealistic.
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You may feel nostalgic for the relationship’s honeymoon stage, but your lives were probably different then: less stress, more free time, and you didn’t know each other so well. Such beginnings are transient by nature and, ideally, broaden into a deeper, richer connection (that ca
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Stay curious. Be open to viewing your partner in a different light. Reflect on your relationship and consider if there have been times when you didn’t check-in, express interest, or ask a follow-up question to keep the conversation flowing. Identifying these moments empowers you
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Put the effort in. Even when the excitement and novelty have faded, a relationship’s comfort and security are worth nurturing. Schedule time for a catch-up and, if needed, rebuild some bridges. Ultimately, being in love is a sense of togetherness. Simply sharing what’s happening
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Dig beneath the surface. What seems to be the problem (like no longer finding their partner attractive) is usually not the real issue. That 'out-of-love' feeling often stems from repeated disappointments at sensitive times: those moments when you relied on them but their mind was
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Don’t just blurt out that you’re no longer feeling in love. Positivity helps enormously. Start by affirming that you’re committed to a future together. Mention that you want to open up about something that’s difficult to share, but worth talking about for the sake of bringing you
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Be proactive. There will be many opportunities to revive the magic. But the longer you wait, the more negativity can fester – leaving you with more work to do. Distant relationships can continue to function perfectly well… until something simple turns everything on its head.
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Sometimes, other things in life naturally shift our attention away from the relationship we take for granted. It could be raising a child, grieving a death, or stress at work. The key in these situations is to consciously take time to re-center things by discussing needs and figu
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List all of your partner’s positive traits – the things that you’re grateful for. Being human is complicated, especially when life gets messy. We all have times when we seem insecure or unattractive. That’s when it pays off to remember – and help them remember – their strengths.
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Finally, the fundamental dynamics of a relationship won’t change unless the parties involved are actively changing them. The main thing to remember is that everything can be worked on, but hoping things will “sort themselves out” is not the answer.
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