Breaking the Myths of Suicide (and learning to help your loved ones in the process)

According to the CDC, nearly 46,000 lives were lost to suicide in 2020 and it was the second leading cause of death for youth ages 10-14 and adults ages 25-34. In addition, 12.2 million adults reported seriously thinking about suicide and 1.2 million attempted suicide. 

As experts work to decrease these rates, it is crucial to combat the myths surrounding suicide. By combatting these we are better able to understand and help individuals struggling with suicidal thoughts. Here are some of the most common myths:

Only people with mental illnesses commit suicide. In fact, 54% of suicides were committed by people without a mental disorder. Many other factors can be the cause, including trauma, debilitating illness, relationship problems, grief, legal issues, eviction, persecution, or abuse.

People who commit suicide want to die. The reality is that for most individuals it is not that they don’t want to live, but rather that they want their suffering to end. People at this point are experiencing a level of suffering that has left them hopeless.

People who commit suicide are selfish and aren’t thinking of their loved ones. The truth is that many of them believe the best thing for their family and loved ones is for them to disappear. In their despair they believe the loving thing to do is to leave.

Someone who has struggled with suicidal thoughts once always will. Many times situational triggers are temporary, such as financial problems. Other times negative thoughts are able to be reframed with treatment. Once these are resolved many go on to live long, happy lives.

There’s no way to tell if someone is suicidal. Usually there are warning signs, including increased substance use, withdrawal from others, impulsive behaviors, drastic mood swings, aggression, giving away possessions, obtaining a gun or pills, or putting their affairs in order. 

Talking about suicide will plant that idea in their head. This is perhaps the most common myth. In reality talking about suicide reduces risk. It reduces the stigma and allows people the opportunity to share their thoughts, express their pain, and consider other options. 

Only an expert can help a suicidal person. Family and friends can be a tremendous support. Talk openly and consider a check-in system that allows them to rate the severity of their thoughts. Learn what healthy coping skills help them and practice those with them. 

Breaking the myths of suicide can help end stigma and bring understanding to those suffering with these thoughts. By doing so, we can empower people to get the help they need. If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, call 988 or text HOME to 741741.